I'm not really one for making New Year's resolutions. In fact, the last one I made was many years ago. And it was to not make any more resolutions. I'm not against the idea of a new year being full of new hope. I just don't see why it is necessary to wait until 1 January to change your behaviour or develop new habits. If there is something you really need or want to do in your life, then surely any day of the year is a good one to begin.
Rather than making resolutions I have been thinking about the word
make. It's a good word. It means to form, create, construct or alter something. When we make something we bring it into existence through our deliberate actions. That's pretty amazing when you think about it. What's even better, though, is the way the word
make sits so nicely alongside so many other words.
For instance, we make decisions and we make impressions. We make music and art and wishes. We make friends. We make homes. We make rules and we often make exceptions too. We make cakes and quilts and sandwiches and jam. Some among us might make history. At our finest, we make people smile or laugh. We might even make their day. We make believe. We make love. We make do.
Lately, I have found myself getting distracted and discouraged by the things I can't do. And the problems I can't solve. Instead of getting stuck in such thoughts, this year I've decided I'm going to try to think differently. I want to focus on what I can make happen. Even if sometimes it doesn't seem like much.
I don't always make the bed. In fact some days I barely make it out of bed. But even on a bad day, I can usually manage to at least make breakfast or a cup of tea. There are times when it feels the only things I'm capable of making are messes and mistakes. But there's always a chance I can make up for it the next day.
Make a difference
I am shifting my perspective by choosing to think about what I can do and make. I may not be able to change what I am actually able to achieve. But hopefully I won't feel as bad about the things I can't. I already know it is not going to work every day. The many years I've spent living with the limitations and frustrations of chronic illness have taught me that. However, they have also taught me that I can survive despite the difficulties. I guess what I have learned is to try to make the best of things in whatever way I can. That's what I'm aiming for this year.
One thing I know is that it is hard to make up for lost time. So as the year begins it is worthwhile wondering what you want to make happen in 2012. What mark do you want to make? What are you going to aim for? Whether you make New Year's resolutions or not, you can still make a decision to make a difference.
You can choose to make your life meaningful. You can make it matter. You can make it magnificient. Even if you don't always make the bed.